I’m a man aged 40 years & my wife is 34 years old, we have been married for 8 years with 2 lovely children a boy & a girl

Before we got married years back my wife once cheated on me with a certain guy but i forgave her because she is beautiful & i love her, though she refused to talk about why she cheated on me, i tried bringing up the topic so that she gives me reasons but she still refused to open up until we got married with a white wedding

When we got married in 2016 all was well until one day when i saw a strange message on her phone, i opened the message & it was a love message from one of the guys she used to have an affair with before we got married, i asked her about why she is still dating him but my wife refused to talk about it again, later on again i discover 2 other extra men in her phone recently & when i asked she still down played it saying she doesn’t want to discuss it, as a husband i love my wife very much & i want our marriage to workout & raise our 2 lovely children but how do i solve this puzzle because i don’t know why my wife is doing this & secondly my heart is at pains because she has never given me even 2 minutes to talk about these issues of her having affairs, she is ever on the shield mood whenever i raise the topic, please advise how do i handle this situation??

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